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5 Things You Should Stop Doing Right Now to Improve Your Personal Life

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This article was written by Julie Morris. The views in this blogpost are strictly hers and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Pennsylvania Equality Project or its Board of Directors. (Copyright, December, 2020)

We all go through times in our lives when we struggle. But if you find yourself in a personal rut that you just can’t seem to dig your way out of, you need to make some changes in your life. By getting rid of the habits that hinder your growth and happiness, you’ll find your relationships with others will also be much improved.


Stop Neglecting Your Health


Research from the Journal of Consumer Research shows that Americans associate busyness and stress with prestige and status. However, taking the time to slow down for self-care is extremely important for your emotional, mental, and physical health. Schedule downtime to relax and rejuvenate your mind and body, and be sure to get enough quality sleep. Additionally, you should remove toxic people and other obvious stressors from your life. You should also eat healthfully and exercise regularly to fuel and strengthen your body. Devoting time to yourself is essential for your happiness and overall well-being.


In addition to following a good exercise plan, you should also develop a healthy diet. This includes avoiding refined carbs and processed sugars and, instead, focusing on whole and fresh food whenever possible. A major component of health that people often overlook is the state of their home. A cluttered and dark home can lead to its occupants feeling stressed and anxious. By thoroughly cleaning,  removing clutter, and adding natural light, you can reduce the negativity and tension you may be feeling in your home.


Stop Looking to Others for Happiness


If you expect your romantic partner to make you happy, find it difficult to be alone, or seem to take every little thing anyone says too personally, you need to become more self-reliant and confident in yourself. Without self-reliance, you can never be consistently happy in your life. Instead of waiting for others to make you happy (or wallowing when they don’t), take charge of your life and your emotions. Do things that you truly enjoy every day. Celebrate adversity and learn to face challenges with a positive outlook. Think of obstacles as opportunities to become stronger and more self-reliant. As you become more confident in yourself, you will find your relationships with others will be strengthened as well.


Stop Avoiding Uncomfortable Topics


When you are in a relationship, don’t avoid conversations that make you uncomfortable. For example, couples should talk about death. You and your spouse should have a will, a living will, and life insurance. Your spouse should know how you feel about life-sustaining treatment and organ donation, and visa-versa. Though it might seem morbid, you can pre-plan and pay for your funeral now. Don’t burden your spouse and family with making funeral arrangements in their time of grief. Handling it now can alleviate their future stress and give you peace of mind.


Differing opinions and problems concerning child-rearing, finances, and intimacy are also uncomfortable topics that many couples try to avoid. However, according to the American Psychology Association, open honest communication — even when it’s difficult — is key to a happy, successful relationship.


Stop Waiting for the Perfect Time


No time is going to be perfect to get married, change your career path, go back to school, or have a baby. If you keep putting off the things you want to do, you are never going to reach your goals. If you want to do something, instead of making excuses why it can’t happen, devise a plan to make it happen. Life is too short to wait around for perfect timing.


Stop Dwelling on the Past


Don’t get stuck in the past. All of us have had situations in our lives where we could have done something differently. But don’t get so hung up on those moments that you can’t find happiness in the present or look toward the future. Spend less time reflecting on things that you can’t change. Instead, learn from your failures and mistakes, and consider them as valuable lessons for future endeavors.


Negative habits and tendencies in your thinking can seriously diminish your overall quality of life. By making simple changes and getting away from bad habits, you can become the best version of yourself. And when you are happy and confident in yourself, you will attract positive people and healthy relationships in your life.


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